You may be making some unhealthy mistakes during a breakup that you may not be aware of. People need to process their breakup and heal in a healthy way in order to restore their mental and physical health. According to Rachel Sussman, LCSW, author of The Breakup Bible, “[a breakup is] like an addiction, like your brain is withdrawing from a drug, and you can feel very obsessive at this time.” This makes it necessary to take the proper steps to take care of yourself. Check out these breakup mistakes and what to do instead.
1. You Try To Go It Alone
It’s important to have support through a breakup. So tell your family, best friends and even close co-workers what you’re going through. This can make a tremendous difference and help you to feel so much better. Don’t go overboard and tell everyone who listens your problems, instead try to confide in those who will tell you when you’re obsessing or being destructive.
2. You Blame Your Ex For Everything
While it feels good to blame our exes for why the relationship failed, it may benefit us to discover what we can learn from our own actions. Maybe you ignored some red flags in your relationship and stayed with your partner even though he or she cheated on you three times and never made you a priority. Whatever the mistakes were that you made, it can beneficial for you to learn from your past experiences.
3. You Demand Closure
According to Sussman, “A huge mistake women make is reaching out to an ex to try to get validation and closure.” This is because what your ex says may never be enough and won’t help you to feel better. What you really need to do is cut off all ties with them for a while. This means deleting their number from your phone and unfollowing them on any social media sites. If the urge comes on for you to cyber stalk them, do something that engages your mind fully, like volunteering or taking a yoga class.
Remember to consult your physician or chiropractor before taking any health advice.
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